Its Complicated

Its Complicated There is only one honest type of relationship status: Its Complicated. Whether youve been married for decades, are recently single, or are involved in some sort of obtuse polyamorous love triangle, its important to understand that relationshipsâ€"all relationshipsâ€"are inherently complicated. We are human beings: mixed bags of thoughts, emotions, and actions; righteous liars and honest cheats; sinners and saints; walking contradictions; both the darkness and the light. Ergo, there’ll be times you disagree with your partner, argue with your friends, quarrel with the the guy in the cubicle next to yours. Such is life. The key is to work through complications with others, to find common ground, to change yourself if you’d like, but neverâ€"everâ€"attempt to change someone else. Love, caring, and respect don’t work that way. To love someone is to understand them, warts and all. You may provide guidance, but the people you love still must steer their own boat. Further reading: my essay,  Thoughts on Meaningful Relationships,  and Colin Wrights rumination, One Should Be 1.